...and read this book:
And while you're at it this one too:

In my quest to be a good mama I've read every parenting book I could get my hands on. John Rosemond's books are the best of the bunch. He writes all about a return to traditional parenting...parenting with common sense. Love it, love it, love it!No new age psycho babble from this guy.
Whenever I need a parenting confidence boost (or a smack upside the head) I look to Mr. Rosemond. I love that he admits his mistakes/missteps as a parent, I love that I laugh (a lot) when I read his books, I love that most everything he says makes perfect sense and I love the results.
P.S. Also fabulous (and available cheap on Amazon) are:
John Rosemond's Six-Point Plan For Raising Happy, Healthy Children
A Family of Value
Parent Power